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Response to a question from a reader.
Lana: I do all of the giving in my relationship with my boyfriend and all he cares about is himself. He’s rude and totally self-centered. I feel down on myself for not standing up for myself. I’d appreciate some advice on what I should do.
Jane: You're talking as though your response is an objective reality response. I suggest you consider that it is, instead, an emotionally triggered response. The issue for you…Continue
This is a question from a reader and my response:
Rose: In separate incidents, two friends have gotten verbally aggressive in an exchange with me, and both of those friendships are now over. Unknown to me, the first friend was under a lot of stress financially and with her boyfriend emotionally. She and I went on a trip to stay at a farm owned by a couple. She started talking with the man soon after we arrived and continued talking with him, and literally turned…Continue
Here is a question from a reader, named Kelly, and my response.
Kelly: If you’re really going to be open to people, open to experience, you’re going to be hurt, and I guess you have to learn how to deal with it. So I’ve chosen to live at a warm distance, because my experience of this is that it hurts. How do you handle attacking energy and at the same time live from a vulnerable space? How can I stay open and conscious, in the face of attack?
It is always there, beneath the surface.
It is there when we are fighting with each other.
It is there under irritations and boredom.
It is there when we are treading water,
trying to avoid what is true.
It is under the masks of
hatred and unconscious oblivion.
It is there when the only thing that seems to exist
is misery and pain.
Oh so real seem the terrorists, the dictators,
the ethnic conflicts that never seem to cease,